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First Date Mistakes Men DoBY: Maya Ballesteros | Category: Relationships | Submitted: 2010-09-04 11:05:08
First dates can be a tremendous success or a disaster. Mistakes happen of course, but some of the mistakes are glaringly obvious there should be a list for them so that men can stay away from doing such unnecessary slips. Talking Too Much Conversation is a big part of first dates. You are bound to talk a lot about your background, your interest, the things you aspire to do and many more. First dates are also heavy in nervousness and unfortunately, these can lead to talking nonstop. This is a big turn off for most women. Some women may find a guy who talks big attractive but these are probably women you are not interested in anyway, so refrain from ceaselessly talking about yourself. Don't worry about awkward moments when nobody's talking. It is always much better than boring your date to death with talks about topics she's not interested in. Tell her about yourself but always balance it with genuine interest in her. Ask her questions, get to know her. It is the purpose of first date, anyway. Also, avoid talking at length about your job unless she specifically express interest in what you do. Elaborate a little but remember to always balance it. Not Talking at All Just like the talking too much guy, the guy who says nothing is just as maddening. Do answer when she asks a question. Take it as a compliment. There is nothing to gain by saying your life, your hobbies or your job is not interesting. This makes you come across as either much too shy or passive aggressively hostile. Be genuine and speak of things in your life that you are passionate about. It is understandable to find it difficult to formulate a good answer when you are nervous. Calm yourself and remember that small mistakes are bound to happen anyway. Not answering is the worst of them. If it is necessary, get a friend to help you practice. Make him or her ask you standard first date questions and run it through your head and give the answers. Remember that your date is not looking for the best answers, her goal is to get to know you. Being Egocentric Some men, out of extreme nervousness, go the deep end and act much too confident to hide their insecurity. They talk endlessly about how cool they are, how great their achievements are and end up irritating the woman their dating. Always remember that insecurity is the least attractive of anyone's make up. Remember that dates are about two people. It's not a contest, it's not a job interview. Like most things in life, it is always better to show and not tell. Impressing a woman is not about listing down your achievement or your good characters. Give her genuine compliment, show your interest in her, let her know that you are a big person by letting her see your world revolves around others. Not Being a Gentleman Some men just don't care about being nice, some are simply oblivious. True, the whole gender equality issue can be confusing. During a first date is where your gentlemanliness can come out in the open. The good rule of thumb here is to be nice, thoughtful and considerate. Don't be rude to her and never be rude to the waiter. Make things easy for her by when it is right there under your nose like opening the door and helping her with her coat. Being a gentleman during a date is actually easy if you are really interested in her. You'll pick up subtle signs of her needing some little helps and this is where you come in. Offer to help and don't fret if she says no. It's the offer that counts. Being Sloppy We know that most men shy away from anything fashion. The metrosexual trend didn't even last more than a year. This however does not give you the license to forgo basic grooming when you go on your first date. It is a date, remember, the first one too! You definitely want to make an impression. This is where a date resembles an interview for a job, if only a little. Be presentable, clean and nice. Looking other than this makes her think you don't much look forward to the date and can't be bothered trying to impress her. Show up with clean clothes, well combed hair and smelling good. Freshly showered is the ticket, not a bottle of cologne doused on your person. Article Source: http://www.writearticles.org/ About Author / Additional Info: Comments on this article: (0 comments so far)
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