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Marrying the Family: Saying 'I Do' commits you to more than just your SpouseBY: Guest User | Category: Politics | Submitted: 2010-02-26 10:56:39
You're in love. You run to the altar, say your vows, look lovingly into the eyes of your new spouse, and then turn around to face the in-laws. It's a scary sight, but it can be even scarier if you don't know what you've gotten yourself into. The stereotype of the horrible in-laws may have started in a real story, or an amalgamation of real experiences. And no matter how many people are in your beloved's family, in marrying him/her you are joining yourself to the family forever. Love conquers all, but many times it is the love that you have for your spouse that stays your hand in conquering those relatives. There are thousands of books available that can guide you in getting to know your potential spouse. From learning about your family trees, heritage, likes and dislikes, experiences, and many other areas, you slowly chip away at your doubt and solidify the conviction that this is indeed the one person for you (then again, the opposite could happen as well). While family dynamics and meeting the family are usually a part of the dating experience, the depth to which you get to know your beloved's family is many times overlooked. It makes sense why you wouldn't care too much about the skeletons in the family members' closets. After all, you aren't going to marry them, just their relative. And in the end, love conquers all, right? Maybe, but the amount that you have to fight in order to win that battle will vary drastically depending on who is in that family tree. Let's take Uncle Larry as an example. Uncle Larry is a little bit kooky. He doesn't follow any of the standard family traditions that the rest of the family does, and he can bit a little bit outspoken. Let's make that a lot outspoken. In fact, Uncle Larry is so committed to his alma mater that he decided not to come to your wedding because you graduated from the rival university. Okay, this might make it easier; after all, if he refuses to see you, then you don't have to worry about building a relationship with him, right? Maybe. Then we have sister-in-law, Joyce. Joyce has a tendency to drink, do drugs, go to wild parties, and crash at your girlfriend's house in order to sleep it off. You see Joyce as a bit of an annoyance right now, but you're wondering if she will continue to come knocking on your door at 4a.m. once you are married. Not to mention the boyfriends she drags with her. . . It's difficult to know where to draw the line in a relationship. You may have already shrugged off these hypothetical situations. Then again, you might be wondering when I met Joyce and Uncle Larry. Every relationship has give and take. You have to be willing to set aside your priorities in order to love and serve the other person in the relationship. But before you take that step toward "I do," make sure that you understand the other people in the family, how your beloved interacts with them, and what your preferred response would be to them. If that becomes a deal-breaker for you or your date, you may want to reconsider before you take that trek down the aisle. Article Source: http://www.writearticles.org/ About Author / Additional Info: Comments on this article: (0 comments so far)
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